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If you’ve stumbled across this website, it is being pieced together as I find time (while on my own healing journey) to share what has helped me through life + healing. Hope you find these guides as helpful as I have. Thanks for being here! -That Girl Amber

The Human Hangover is the aftereffect we feel, simply by being human. Drinking from a well of unprocessed emotions; our days form by a mind that responds to the present, based on the past. We experience life through the voices of others- until we live audaciously enough, to find our own.

Navigating childhood trauma (cPTSD) and discovering my undiagnosed Autism at 35, meant I was motivated to live an audacious life. Here is what helped me find my path, instead of perfect it. These are my failures in being normal, and my successes in being human.
This is my Human Hangover 

“Drunk on lust, hate, greed, and fear; we have forgotten the requirement of the soul- to love.”

MY HUMAN HANGOVER
Born into generational trauma; empathy was mandatory in reading the emotions of those around me, while ignoring emotions inside myself. After decades of neglecting my feelings, they came screaming to the surface as a tidal wave of inescapable reform. My choice was clear, either ride the wave or be ridden by it.

2020 brought a sucker punch of emotions, turning me (and I think all of us) inside out. With a therapist shortage, old and new trauma merging, and limited tools available – I resorted to old childhood tricks for mental survival. Integrating past strategies with modern day healing has given me a life I never thought possible. The Human Hangover is a growing collection of inner work guides, art, and mindful healing that has helped me wake up to who I am, find my way, and find my why.

                      

FIND YOUR FEELS

Unprocessed emotions become hidden and trapped into the structure of our body. Finding these connections brings an awareness that allows us to work on the emotional associations; restoring balance and rebuilding our body, mind, and life. Where focus goes, energy flows… but that is only helpful when you know where to focus.

EMOTIONAL
BODY MAP

In the animal world, once safety is found, animals will “shake off” a life threatening chase to help discharge the energy from the traumatic event. Allowing our bodies to finish this nervous system response for daily emotions and past trauma, helps the body maintain balance and build strength. Deeply rooted discomfort in the body can be the result of unreleased emotions or trauma from our past, which is best released by the body.

Working emotions through the body helps bring balance to the nervous system, and gives us the chance to respond instead of react, and consciously live instead of exist. Start by being curious, click below to find your feels. Allow these tools to be suggestions, and always listen to your body in finding out where feelings and emotions reside. Everyone is different and each body will manifest emotions differently. 

DIVE DEEPER…

CHOOSE YOUR OWN
HEALING ADVENTURE

Identifying and locating emotions in the body gives us a roadmap to build our healing journey around. Unprocessed trauma can show up in many ways, but can also be released and healed in many ways. I’ve used countless techniques over the past 30+ years to let go of deeply rooted trauma; and this pattern emerged to be the most efficient method in applying those healing modalities.

Healing can be tough to navigate and help difficult to find; but the greatest tool in healing we can use, is ourself. These guides are not a cure, but a tool to help aid in listening to your body, finding your voice, and hearing what YOU are saying. Create space, lean into the process and allow each step the time needed to unfold, release, and restore your body and mind.

1  SOUND IT OUT

How are your waters?

Listening to our pain leads the way to discovering areas of our subconscious in need of attention. Coupling inner work and body work (focusing on the correlating emotional and physical areas) encourages our mind + body connection to work in harmony with the healing process.  Click below for guides that help in listening to your body and exploring your emotional waters.

2  FEEL IT OUT

What’s below the surface?

You must feel it, to heal it. I don’t make the rules, but I can be proof that it’s true to the core. One of the best ways to open up our emotions is by combining breath work, stretching the hips, and diving into the inner work of finding the who, what, and why behind our pain. Feel it out and get to the root of the problem. Click below for guides that help in feeling your pain and discovering what’s beneath the surface.

3  MOVE IT OUT

Make your own waves.

Emotions are stored in our physical being, so working through trauma mentally will only get us so far. After listening to and feeling the emotions in our body, we can release the old energy & integrate new energy. Once we release the power of others’ voice/energy over us, we create space to call back our own voice/power and to make our own waves. Click below for guides that help in releasing and integrating emotions, calming the waters, and making your own waves.